And like so many other things that I was so certain about, I changed my mind. To my ancient mind, the term dating conjures up images of unsupervised alone time. I know that many people think this is a horrible reason to allow your kids to do anything. The key is finding the way to say it so they will listen.My young teen boys are perfectly happy having their “girlfriend” come over to the house and have dinner with the family and then watch movies or play games in the family room with the entire family. Except that in this instance, I have seen time and time again parents who refuse to allow their kids to date and kids who lie, sneak around and do it anyway. One of my sons briefly had a girlfriend that was always angry at him for something.Since you have a houseful of kids, I am wondering how you deal with this. “Mean Mom” Back when all of my children were small I always said that they could date once they were ready to get married. Based on my own life experiences I couldn’t see how it possibly could be a good thing. As they have grown I have realized that there is no protecting children from being hurt. Once they can drive they will be off going places and you probably won’t know where half the time.
Do the same math if you are considering dating an older guy…I asked him if he thought he would like to buy them for her.(They are a bunch, hardly a huge expenditure.) He looked at me like I had just suggested he dance naked in the checkout aisle. I don’t presume to understand the inner-workings of a middle school aged boy’s mind, so I dropped the subject.but, after 30 or 35, everyone is just kind of sleepy and already knows what kind of champagne they like, so who cares.The practical arguments against dating a much-younger guy are that he won’t be able to relate to you, and that he won’t be able to give you what you need—which I guess ostensibly means commitment, a baby, sexual experience and dinner at Sotto Sotto, where he acts normal when you see Drake.I am very pleased to announce that Chris Jordan will now be fielding questions about raising tweens and teens.